First let’s make something very clear. You, everyone, is fine the way they are. Only if they want a different future, would they want to discover the areas in them or their life that need improving.
If you want your life to be different, you are going to have to think, speak and take action “outside your comfort-zone” and for major improvement you will have to realize one of your long-held belief systems is not true.
From doing both personal life coaching and corporate strategic planning for 24 years (since 1986) about 24,000 sessions, it has always dumbfounded me how people (or companies) want their future to be noticeably improved and yet they have this delusion that they can remain the same. Isn’t that exactly the same as a well-known quote from Albert Einstein, “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” To take that a bit further
- Being the same person and expecting a different reality may get you success but it won’t last!
- Keeping the same belief-systems and expecting your life to be different may get you success but you won’t be happy!
These are all symptoms of a syndrome called the “lottery curse.” Psychologist Steve Danish, a professor of psychology at Virginia Commonwealth University, has studied the impact instant wealth has on lottery winners. “The dream you have about winning may be better than the actuality of winning,” he said. “There have been families and lives that have just been totally torn apart by this process.” Reporter Sherri Granato clearly states, “If you are not accustomed to having great wealth as many of these big lottery winners were not, then the problems that come with suddenly having a lot of money overnight can be so overwhelming that depression is inevitable.”
It always seems that people think they will get success and then it will change them to handle and keep it. They want the “getting” to beget the “being”. Lasting success is when the “being” permeates the “thinking”, “saying” and “doing” so by the time more success comes, they are ready for it and realize how they need to change to keep it. I say that significant improvement in a person’s life will “make the good things better and the bad things worse!” It just amplifies everything equally.
In my 24 years, I have concluded that if someone wants or gets more than a 20% change either positively or negatively in any area of their life, they and their life will have to change significantly to make it a positive and not a negative.
“If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.” Tony Robbins
